Sunday, October 09, 2005

just breathe

i did not win

one foot in front of the other
good one nikki
thats the way to do it

i too dated someone who left for the bighouse
twas a very sad day when he left
he deserved it though
naughty things

working too much
no time for sleep
or food
or fun

i miss the boy
that made me smile for a few weeks
talking on the phone
not the same

at work yesterday
a new waitress told me
that the cooks were sexually harrassing her in the kitchen
talking about her suckin their dicks

she was mortified
and scared

i told them to stop
they apologized to her
she told them it didnt bother her

but it did

she is very timid
and wants everyone to like her
i can understand that
but thats how rape happens
letting them do it because yo dont have the courage to say no

i told on them
i had to
what they did wasnt right
and she wouldnt do it

i was raped
overpowered
scared and weak

i wont let any more women get sexually harrassed
not on my watch

stand up for yourselves
tell them to fuck off
then get out of dodge

i hope they get fired
they do not deserve to be in her presence
beautiful intelligent women
we need to stick together
fight it

i found the yucky smell that was in my room
my daughter dropped a cup with milk in it behind my bed
couldnt sleep in here for days
still making me nausaus
yuck yuck

i miss her when shes with her dad

she does a cheer for me

"awesome
oh wow
like, totally freak me out i mean right on
mommy sure is number one"

my big girl
*sigh*

5 Comments:

Blogger diadima said...

i love how sour milk magically encapsulates that 'fresh vomit' scent.

this past summer, while unloading groceries from her car, mark's sister accidently left behind a chicken breast. it then sat in her car for four days in the middle of july. eventually, mark opened up the trunk and removed the BLACK chicken breast. best quote of the whole ordeal was mark's daughter, meagan:

"it smells like....HATE"

10:07 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

*closing eyes*

needed this today.

still weavin through all kinds of thoughts stemming from what I just took in; still digesting...

thanks, red. you are beautiful. all over.

11:48 AM  
Blogger GingerSnaps said...

dia, ive had that effect from chicken before and she is right...hate! yuck, i almost threw uo just remembering.

nikki, i have been thinkning alot about this guy lately. it was 16 years ago. i was 14 , he was 24. he was dealing drugs and was caught before i even met him. we were together for 2 months...totally in love (well, i was 14 so...) then one day he tells me that he is leaving for prison for 5 years...three days later he left. i was devastated. it took me a long time to get over and now looking back i think that there was something severely wrong with him to be dating a 14 year old girl when your 24..

malcolm is right now fixing his karma. he will be a better person because of this. and he will miss you every minute. hang tough babe. im here for you.

12:14 PM  
Blogger SS said...

i love the little cheer she does for you! how too cute.

6:17 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

found you site thru ro’s, went back and read starting with “my view”. i had to stop immediately and write this right after i read this post “just breathe”. you seem to having some very caring, kind and flippin’ funny friends who regularly reply but i was upset when no one said a thing about the fact that you helped stop a woman at work from being sexually harassed and you had admitted that you were raped! first of all, thank you from woman kind in general for stepping in for a woman who was too timid to do it herself. who knows what could have happened had you not done it. maybe nothing but if there is even the smallest chance that ANYTHING could happen isn’t our duty as a fellow female to do something? i too was raped. the first time was my first sexual experience. it was date rape and i was terrified yet afterward he acted like nothing had happened and weren’t we still together and happy? he even came to my home and sat and talked to my parents and siblings while I stayed locked up in my room, mortified, losing a piece of myself that i still have not found i was 16 and he was 24. i never told my parents. i just told them to tell him to go away and they said that I was being immature! it took some very close, very good, very strong friends to help me thru that one. the second time I didn’t know him, i never saw him, before, during or after. i had just moved 800 miles away from home for college and knew NO ONE!! now i am a mom and my daughter will NEVER go out with a man 8 yrs older than her until she she is 18 and I have no legal right to stop her! i will NEVER let my daughter move 800 miles away without some kind of support system set up and some kind of emergency cash fund or credit card! ok, enough venting, i am sorry that this is my first post on your site, i promise it wont be the last. i was just appalled that no one said a word about what you had done or revealed. it took courage to turn them in and it took even more to tell them to their face and get that apology for your fellow worker. you know, i am sure that the apology did help a little, not make it better but at least calm her a bit but I bet what helped her the most was knowing what you did to make it all happen. your posters should not have overlooked this part of your post, they should have stood up and applauded it!! i personally think you are amazing. i am going thru a divorce myself so i am soon to become the statistic of single mom. maybe we can help each other thru the tough parts!

1:20 AM  

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