sweet dreams
last night i got into a fight with my three year old
she wanted fruit snacks for dinner
then ramen noodles
i made roasted chicken
and asparagus
she was not happy
she threw herself down on the floor in a fit
looked like she was having a seizure
screaming at me
" i hate you mommy"
she had yogurt
went to bed
she had to sleep with me
wanted her blankie
and her friends
she hit her legs on my nightstand
gets so upset
she cries until she pukes
all over me
i try to wash her up
she hates me
i clean us up
go to bed
tell her shes a wonderful girl
she says
" i need to be a new girl"
" i need to not cry and make you sad mommy"
i tell her shes perfect just the way she is
and its not her thats making me sad
its me
"goodnight sweet girl" i say
" i love you boogaloo"
she says,
" i dont love you, i only love my daddy"
repeat 50 times
while im falling asleep
thats all i hear
"i dont love you mommy"
she wanted fruit snacks for dinner
then ramen noodles
i made roasted chicken
and asparagus
she was not happy
she threw herself down on the floor in a fit
looked like she was having a seizure
screaming at me
" i hate you mommy"
she had yogurt
went to bed
she had to sleep with me
wanted her blankie
and her friends
she hit her legs on my nightstand
gets so upset
she cries until she pukes
all over me
i try to wash her up
she hates me
i clean us up
go to bed
tell her shes a wonderful girl
she says
" i need to be a new girl"
" i need to not cry and make you sad mommy"
i tell her shes perfect just the way she is
and its not her thats making me sad
its me
"goodnight sweet girl" i say
" i love you boogaloo"
she says,
" i dont love you, i only love my daddy"
repeat 50 times
while im falling asleep
thats all i hear
"i dont love you mommy"
posted by GingerSnaps at 11:55 PM
14 Comments:
Was that supposed to break my heart? Cause it just did.
I'm sad too.
Im sorry, I didnt mean to make you feel sad. this is what life is like in my home. the emotions run deep and I give her the freedom to say whatever she feels. I dont want her to grow up thinking she has to say things she doesnt mean just because other people want to hear them. I am honest, as is she, as we all should be.
I think you are on the right track giving her room to say what she means..... Its too bad that sometimes that's the consequence.
hope you have a better day..
-L
we just woke up from our afternoon naps, she woke up first and didnt wake me of course. I walked into the living room to find that she had glued all four of my remotes to the coffee table with super-glue.
I love my daughter.
I basically wasn't allowed to speak as a child and I turned out alright. The facial tick really isn't that bad most of the time, and I very rarely wet myself in public anymore.
I love men with facial ticks, and terrets.makies for interesting lovemaking...
Wow. Do you ask her why she says such hurtful things? I think that there needs to be more dialogue. Let her know that she can speak freely but that words can hurt as well. That was what my mother told me. It made me aware of those around me and not just myself. Is daddy not with you guys? Being a mom has got to be tough, but also wonderful, I'm sure. Take care sweetie.
I try to tell her that it hurts me when she says that and she tells me thats how she feels right now.
no her dad does not live with us, he does see her for a couple hours everyday though. I am the disciplinarian and thats why she prefers him i think.
It simply means she loves you more than anything in her world.
Trust me.
I know she loves me. she just told me I was the most beautiful mommy ever...that really made my day.
damn blues clues! I once woke up to find my bed sprayed with ketchup and her hand prints all over me..she was making her own maddie clues..there should be some kind of alarm that goes off for when our children wake up before us.
Don't worry i worked with infants and toddlers they seem to have bad days like us!
thanks for visiting my blog. i am frustrated i don't think i am being the real me that's all but some days it's huge.
Ah, when little ones say they don't love you or wish you were dead, it just means that they want you to go away. Not forever. Just for the moment. You are loved. Not just by your baby, but by many. That's the truth! Now repeat that 50 times or so :-)
I know you know she doesn't mean it, Lilred, but it still feels good to hear that EVERY other parent has heard the same thing. Me too, and I am the Ubermilf.
They like having an effect. Think about it from their perspective: someone else tells them what to do, what to eat, what to wear, where to go all day long. They have no power, so they take it where they can get it.
Like potty training, dinner time, and ripping your heart out. It's extra hard to be facing this alone. Don't worry about your sabotaging ex -- kids know the truth. Keep doing your best, and she will know.
I'm sending you extra love today.
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